Essentialism
Greg McKeown
It was okay, reasonable ideas about protecting what you find essential in life and thinking hard about what that actually is, but just didn't find me at a time in my life where the ideas were new or resonated
- Basically, think more carefully before saying yes. Is this actually needed/necessary to move in the direction I want to go? Am I spread to thin?
- Am I investing in the right activities. How to get the right things done, not more things done
- To much choice, to much peer pressure b/c internet
- The idea that you can do it all
- If you don't control your life others do
- Fallacies, I have to, it's all important, I can do both
- Vs essentialism, I choose to, only a few things really matter, I can do anything but not everything
- Learned helplessness -> bad -> Either you give up or hyper fixate and try to do everything (both are a not choice thing)
- Certain efforts are exponentially more impactful than others
- Clear hierarchical priorities are important. Because inevitably you will be faced with a situation where you must choose which is more important
- You need to create space for thinking, free of distraction (think my do not disturb hours for work)
- Its nice/good to make some intentional time to just think
- Play is good, help with exploration and improvisation and creativity
- Protect sleep
- 90% rule. You should only spend time on the top 10% of things. Give something a % score. < 90 == 0. Hell yes or No kind of vibe
- Things should be close to exactly what you're aiming for
- If I didn't already own this, what would i be willing to pay for it
- Don't be afraid to say no, its not worth the social awkwardness and potential but non existent damage to the relationship. I'm flattered but I simply don't have the bandwidth right now
- When saying no at work, remind boss what you would have to drop and let them grapple with the trade off
- I cannot x but I'm willing to y. I cannot drive you but I'm willing to lend you my car
- Owning an object makes you value it more. Also applies to actions/activities
- 0 based budgeting. Budget starts at 0. Priorities context over history
- Reverse pilot, does removal of X actually have unintended consequences. Try it and see
- Find your own hidden boundarys and make them explicit and written
- Build in buffers / prep early
- Always add 50% to all time estimates
- Loom to improve on the things that are the biggest bottle necks
- Interesting idea. Make a token system for children. Get tokens ever week, can trade in for screen time or money. Or can do better activities like learning or reading for token